Finding it hard to let go of past hurts? A mindful perspective.


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Every one of us will experience hurt, betrayal and disappointment.  What matters is how we deal with these feelings.  As the Dalai Lama says, ‘Pain is inevitable.  Suffering is optional.’  What he means is that although it’s impossible to avoid upsetting experiences, we do have a say about whether negative events or people continue to affect us.

Interestingly, the word ‘suffer’ comes from a Latin root meaning ‘to carry’.  Do we continue to carry around with us our bitterness or feelings of being wounded?  Or can we let go of these emotions and get on with our lives?

In my time I have been a highly successful sufferer.  For years, in my twenties, I carried with me the hurt and loss of rejection by a girlfriend.  Although I should have known better – having studied psychology – I didn’t know how to let go of what I believed to be my deep feelings for her, or the desolation that she no longer wanted to be part of my life.  My real problem was that I didn’t have the tools to deal with emotional pain.

Many of us don’t.  We may find it hard to let go of the bitterness of betrayal.  We may feel aggrieved by flagrant injustice.   Barely beneath the surface, we seethe with resentment against the person, people or system that has done this to us.

So how do we let go?  The practice of mindfulness offers several helpful perspectives.

  1. It is in our own best interests to let go

We may find it easier to let go – and, where necessary, forgive – when we recognise how much suffering we are causing ourselves by not doing so.  On some level we may know that our unhappy thoughts and feelings do not serve us well.   They rob us of the capacity to find pleasure in everyday life.  They steal our sleep, perhaps even pervade our dreams.  On a biological level, negative emotion stimulates all manner of changes to our production of hormones and neurotransmitters – none of them conducive to physical flourishing.

Meantime, the other person, people or system is unaffected by our anger or unhappiness.  Chances are, they are getting on with their own life, completely oblivious to our thoughts or feelings.

What’s more, our preoccupation is using up the only commodity that is finite – time – preventing us from focusing on more positive, useful and enjoyable activities.

We are causing only ourselves psychological and physical harm with our ongoing obsession.  It is in our own best interests to let go of what happened and move on.  This isn’t about winning or losing, or about who was right or wrong.  It’s about taking care of our own well-being.

  1. We are in charge of our own feelings

It is understandable to feel victimised when we are the one who was ruled against, violated, insulted, dumped or had some other bad thing done to us.  But it’s important to also recognise that we are the one running our own mind – not the other person.  They did what they did.  But that was then and this is now.  They are not forcing us to keep thinking about it, dwelling on it or obsessing over it.  That is our choice.

Stories constantly appear in the media about people who have been offended by slurs against the race, religion or sexual orientation with which they identify.  The chorus of outrage and condemnation that follows may be well intentioned, but it seems to me that a subject vital to our wellbeing is often completely ignored – the ownership that the offended person has of their own feelings of offence.

The reaction of two people to exactly the same abuse may be quite different.  Much will depend on the thoughts they have about the event, or how they frame it.  This will then determine how they feel.  We have a choice on how we think about what happened to us – or if we even think about it at all.  Cognitive behaviour therapy focuses on the interpretations we give to events, offering more positive, happiness-creating alternatives to the ones that cause us unhappiness.

What’s important is to recognise that we can help the way we feel – in fact, we are the only ones who can.  The meaning, importance and impact that any external event has on us is our decision.  We are in charge of our own feelings.  The last person to whom we should abdicate responsibility for our emotions is the person who inflicted the pain.

  1. Mindfulness is key to managing our feelings. 

You may be thinking “These suggestions are all very well but I have no control over what happens in my mind.  Thoughts just come and go without any involvement from me.”

So it may seem.  But when we practice mindfulness of mind (you can download both an explanation of this practice as well as a guided meditation free by signing up on the front page of this website) we begin to recognise that what goes on in our mind is not as random as may appear.  Thoughts only remain and recur because we energize them with our attention.  Our minds are as untainted by the thoughts that pass through them as the sky is by passing clouds.  Every thought we’ve ever had is temporary.  No matter how obsessed you may have been by a thought, it is not in your mind at this very moment.

The truth is that we can take control of our own mind.  Step by step, we can let go of negative cognition and bring our suffering to an end.

Learning to let go of past hurts may be difficult.  But not nearly as difficult as not learning to.

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7 Reasons to Practice Mindfulness in Nature


Never have humans been so dislocated from nature as we are today.  For most of our existence, whether as hunter gatherers or farmers, our lives have depended on the natural world.  Understanding the subtle signals of other animals, the cycle of the seasons and the growth of crops were an assumed part of human survival.

Compare this to what passes for a completely normal day today: 8 hours in an office, shop or industrial park, an hour or two commuting by car or train, more hours spent on TV/social media/gaming.  In a matter of just a few hundred years – the blinking of an eye in evolutionary terms – most of us have moved from creatures engrained in the very fabric of nature, to beings so profoundly disengaged that we mostly have no idea about the origins of the food we eat, clothes we wear or homes we live in.

Of course the industrial and information revolutions have delivered massive benefits.  But our rapid, collective alienation from nature and shift to our current way of life has come at a price.  A yearning to recapture elements of our more natural past are implicit in many green initiatives with their emphasis on organic, raw and whole foods, local produce, natural fibres and so on.  A wish to find balance for our hyper-agitated lifestyles is helping propel the growing interest in mindfulness and meditation.

I believe that combining mindfulness with immersion in nature offers a powerful counterbalance to the challenges of contemporary, urban living.  When we practise mindfulness in nature:


  1. We come back to our senses – what neuroscientists call ‘direct’ mode, as opposed to the ‘narrative’ mode when we are focused on our own inner narrative. In familiar environments like our home, office, car or public transport, we are much likelier to be focused on our thoughts, slipping onto autopilot to perform routine tasks.  But moving into a natural setting we are much more likely to be tuned into what we can see, hear, smell and feel.  Sure we may get caught up in our thoughts again, but something will happen – a gust of wind, a spray of sea – and we are returned to the here and now.
  2. We are powerfully reminded of our connection to nature. Abiding in nature, the restrictive, separate self we often assume ourselves to be in everyday life, falls away from our focus.  The truth is that we are part of nature, as it is of us – only most of the time we are so distracted we don’t recognise the basic reality of our inter-connectedness.
  3. Focusing on what is happening around us, we are put back in touch with the rhythm of the natural world. Instead of the schedule, deadlines and imperatives of our 8 – 5 life, we observe the birds, animals, insects and plants operating according to the timeless principles of our own primordial past.
  4. When this happens, we find it easier simply to let go and be in the present. All else in the natural world is operating in this moment, here and now.  The observable, natural world isn’t based on ideas like ‘I’ll be happy when …’ or ‘I wish it was Friday!’  There is only this moment, now, whatever it may be.  When we are in nature, it’s easier to feel a part of the ever-changing present.
  5. It’s also easier to feel more alive. If we’re not dulled by the conflicting demands and imperatives of our work and families, or caught up in thought about the future and the past, when we can focus vividly on what is here and now, we quite naturally come to recognise the extraordinary world in which we live.  Things may not have changed, but we see them through new eyes.  There is a vitality and freshness to our subjective experience.
  6. Our awareness of the fragility of so many life forms, how their very survival hangs, moment by moment, in the balance, quite naturally awakens our compassion. Instead of focusing on the problems we personally may be facing, we cannot but become aware of the far greater existential challenges faced by other beings with whom we share the world.
  7. In so doing, we come to recognise our own extremely good fortune. With a very much broadened perspective, we return to our own lives with a fresh appreciation and feeling of gratitude for the great many things we take for granted.

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The Joy of Winefulness


I practice and teach meditation.  I also enjoy wine.  White in summer, red in winter is what floats my particular boat.  I drink in moderation and only rarely over-indulge.

I have no doubt at all that mindfulness makes drinking wine very much more enjoyable.

When we are being mindful – ‘paying attention to the present moment deliberately and non-judgementally’ – we are able to extract the full intensity of any given experience.  We focus with our undivided attention.  We don’t allow ourselves to be side-tracked by cognitive chatter.  As a result, the experience is a much more vivid and all-absorbing one than if we allow ourselves to be distracted.  Neuro-scientists call it being in ‘direct’ mode when we attend directly to what we are seeing, smelling, tasting, hearing and touching, as opposed to ‘narrative’ mode, when we are caught up in our thoughts.

Significantly, there is a small and elite group of people in the West who have been serious practitioners of mindfulness for well over a hundred and fifty years: sommeliers.   Their mindfulness may have been developed in relation to a specific range of objects, but it has evolved with a rigour that would impress even the strictest Eastern master.

A sommelier is expected to recognise three different elements of appearance, three of nose, and five different aspects of taste, sweetness, acidity, tannin, body, flavours (e.g. fruits, flowers, spices) and finish.  A specific wine lexicon of over 120 terms has been developed and increasingly it is the case that sommeliers must pass blindfold tests where they should differentiate, for example, between the tastes of a black current, black berry and black cherry. 

The ability to give forensic attention to something, and discern subtly-different aspects of it is the very heart of mindfulness.  And watching it in action can seem close to magic.  I was so impressed when I poured out a splash of red for a sommelier friend and, after a swirl of the glass and meditative sip he told me it was a Barossa Valley Shiraz.  I would do this a lot more often but my wife tells me off for treating him like a performing monkey.  The truth is, I am in complete awe of his skill!

While most of us will never be sommelier-level wine tasters, we can all benefit from being more mindful when drinking wine.  We appreciate each sip all the more when we really give it our full attention.  When we are aware of all the subtly-different characteristics it may have, ours is a richer, more multi-layered, and appreciative experience.

You’ll find a link here to an online document provided by the Wine & Spirit Education Trust which details different characteristics you may try to look out for when mindfully tasting wine.  It also has a very helpful list of different words in the sommelier’s lexicon:

Here’s a suggestion: next time you have wine-quaffing friends round for a meal, get in a couple of alternative options of the same varietal, print out the tasting notes from the bottle for them to read, and offer the options to your friends in glasses with different coloured ribbons on the stems (one of you will have to know which ribbon represents which wine).  A blind taste-test is a wonderful way to experience the joy of winefulness and a great start to the evening!

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Listen to David Michie and 99 others at the Hay House World Summit


Hi Everyone,

I was honoured to be invited by Hay House, publishers of my Dalai Lama’s Cat series, to take part in the 2016 Hay House World Summit – the largest health and wellness event in the world!

A few key points about the World Summit:

It is an online event, enabling you to access sessions with 100 experts, authors and spiritual teachers covering multiple topics including, physical, mental and emotional health, spirituality, prosperity, relationships and self-empowerment;

The event starts on 7th May, but if you register today you’ll receive 4 free audio lessons to jumpstart your learning adventure;

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Can you be a Buddhist if you don’t believe in karma and reincarnation?

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I am sometimes asked this question, especially at the end of an introductory class on Buddhism.  The person asking me will usually have been struck by one of the life-enhancing insights offered by the Dharma.  Perhaps they have experienced the gentle but powerful impact that meditation has on our state of mind.  Many Buddhist teachings have a strong resonance among busy Westerners for a variety of reasons.

But karma and reincarnation?  Not so much.

It’s not at all surprising that most people struggle with these concepts.  I certainly did. Quite simply, they are not part of our culture.  The Western view, largely shaped by Christianity and materialist science, has it that when we die our souls go to heaven or hell, or alternatively that they go nowhere at all because they never existed in the first place.  The idea that some part of us continues through successive experiences of birth, ageing, death and rebirth, and has done since the beginning of time, is not our way of thinking.

After all the sane and life-enhancing wisdom of Buddhism, it may seem disappointing to drag such outlandish concepts into the picture – especially as most of us can’t remember a single thing about a previous lifetime.

Hence the question: can you be a Buddhist if you don’t believe such things.

My own response to this question is simply to ask: why do you want to be a Buddhist?  It isn’t necessary to give a label to yourself or what you do.  If you find certain things in Buddhism that are useful to you – take them.  If there are others you find weird – leave them.  The objective is not to get people to join some sort of club.  It is to offer tools to be happier.

If the idea that the consciousness of your now-deceased mother in law is currently experiencing reality as a termite in the jungles of Papua New Guinea sets you on edge, then, no problem.  On the other hand, that suggestion may be sparking a renewed interest in this Buddhist rebirth malarkey!

Karma and rebirth are core to Buddhism.  Yes, they were part of the culture in which Siddartha Gautama, the historical Buddha, grew up.  But he didn’t plod along in sheep-like acceptance of convention.  It is said that on the night he became enlightened he reviewed his own previous lives – one imagines, like fast-forwarding through a pre-recorded drama series – clearly noting the law of causality, or karma, playing out from one lifetime, or episode, to the next.

One of our biggest challenges, as Westerners, is letting go of the preconceptions we have about what exactly moves through different lifetimes.  So conditioned by both Christianity and, ironically, materialism, about this entity known as the soul, we have a tendency to think that our acquired personality, together with memories, likes and dislikes, the ego and all its kit and caboodle, are transferred wholesale from one body to the next.

This is not the Buddhist view.

Even we beginner meditators can come to recognise, after a while, that consciousness exists at different levels.  Those aspects of personality and memories, which we may have come to believe is who we truly are, turn out to be conceptual notions which come and go, with no independent existence at all.  Running behind this, all the time, we discover mind to be something more subtle: a formless continuum of clarity and cognition.  It is this very subtle consciousness that Buddhists say moves from one life to the next.

As for karma, all of us ‘believe’ in the law of cause and effect on a material level – we rely on it every time we turn the ignition key in the car, or press a light switch.  We can also observe it at a psychological level, perhaps more easily in others than ourselves, in the way that negative thinking leads to self-harmful behaviour, which in turn reinforces the negative thinking and so on, in a vicious spiral downwards.  Just as the opposite is also true.  Perhaps it is not so outlandish to suggest that causality can occur on a longer term basis, constantly propelling the formless continuum of clarity and cognition through different experiences.

Karma and rebirth are big subjects – certainly too much to deal with adequately in a short blog.  But I hope I have provided a few tools to help any readers who may have been struggling with these concepts.

Coming back to the original question, you don’t have to believe in karma and rebirth to be a regular at Buddhist classes.  But you do have to have an open mind.  My advice would be to put less helpful subjects to one side, and focus on the ones that are most useful to you at this moment in your life.  Often it is the case that as our understanding of one subject deepens, it illuminates others in a quite unexpected way.  Step by step, we discover an elegant coherence to all the teachings.

The last word on this subject goes to Buddha himself:

Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.”

(Asvaghosa’s Buddhacarita or Acts of the Buddha.)

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Do you know your pet from a previous lifetime? Call out for stories!

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The Buddhist view is that those who come into our lives, aren’t here by chance.  They are with us because of a previously created cause.  Perhaps they are drawn to us, or another family member or even where we live.  Some kind of connection, previously established, has given rise to the current effect of them being with us.

Most of us are oblivious to what that original cause may have been.  It may have been created in the very distant past, during a previous lifetime.  And the kind of relationship we had with the person or pet we currently share our life with may also have been different.  This is part of the reason why we are encouraged to treat animals with all due respect: they may have been our mother, our lover, our best friend, in a previous lifetime. 

The way we are together now is not only a result of a previously created cause.  In the way we interact we are creating the causes for future results.  Another reason to practice love and compassion: we are setting up our own experience of reality in the future.

I’ve heard of people who’ve had a strong sense that their pet is a being with whom they’ve had a previous connection.  A cat, for example, who has come back to the family as a cat once again.  Sometimes this intuition is supported by particular evidence of similarities in behaviour or other quirks.

Humans may also come back as animals.  Animals as humans.  If we allow ourselves an open mind on the permutations, we recognise just how limitless the possibilities are.  And, therefore, how important the close bonds we share with other beings in our lives, at any one moment.

I am currently writing a book about animals and spirituality from a Buddhist perspective.  I look forward to sharing much more with you on this intriguing subject when the book is published next year.

Right now I am actively interested in any personal experiences and anecdotes blog readers may like to offer, in the area of pets and reincarnation, which you’d be happy for me to include in the book.  Interesting stories of animal spirituality and human-pet interactions would also be great!  Feel free to share your story in the Comment box at the bottom of this blog, or email me directly at:

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5 Benefits of Suffering

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Most of us will do whatever we can to avoid suffering.  We don’t like the idea of it.  We don’t much like even the word.  Whether it’s trivial inconvenience or major life-changing suffering we want no part of it.  But the reality is that for much of our lives we experience some level of dissatisfaction.   This was Buddha’s first ‘Noble Truth’ – or as The Dalai Lama puts it, his first ‘fact of life.’

Buddhism has many ways of reframing our experience of reality, to find mental outcomes that better serve us.  What is beneficial about suffering?

When we go through a terrible experience – health, financial, legal, relationship or other problems – our empathy for others in the same situation develops quite naturally.  We really know how they feel.  We feel the same.  Because of our suffering, we can relate to them strongly, in a heartfelt way.  Our capacity for empathy deepens.

We also learn humility.  When everything is going our way, it’s easy to become so caught up in our own busy world that we may overlook or diminish the challenges faced by those who are doing it tough.  Some people even become arrogant and judgemental, perhaps believing they are somehow immune to the problems that, in time, we all must face.  When we suffer, we know the truth.  There is no place to be a big deal.  And with humility, we develop gratitude for things we may have overlooked: the kindness of friends and strangers.  The happiness to be found in everyday things.  As Cicero said ‘Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues but the parent of all the others.’

Suffering makes us stronger.  When, eventually, we get through our ordeal, we are wiser, more experienced and capable than before.  Learning from our difficulties, we don’t need to be told to avoid them in the future.  We are more confident in dealing with life’s ups and downs. What doesn’t kill us, makes us stronger.

Suffering motivates our spiritual practice.  In Buddhism, turning away from the true causes of our suffering marks the beginning of our journey of inner growth.  This is sometimes symbolised in the form of a lotus, a plant which has its root in the muddiest of swamps, but which rises to the surface of the water to blossom in flowers of the most exquisite beauty.  As Thich Nhat Hanh puts it so succinctly, ‘No mud, not lotus.’  In motivating us to transfer more of our focus from conventional reality to those practices that best serve our experience of ultimate reality, suffering propels us towards the light, and those values which are of enduring benefit to self and others.

Are you sold on suffering?  Feel like experiencing more?!  The head of the Tibetan Buddhist Society, our kind and precious teacher Geshe Acharya Thubten Loden was often visited by people seeking counsel in times of despair.  ‘Do you want my advice on how to deal with suffering?’ he would ask.

‘Oh yes, Geshe-la!’ they would sincerely reply

‘Are you quite sure?’ he used to confirm.  (For those in the know, this is a red alert from a lama: you are about to be told something you may not wish to hear, and this is your last chance to get out).

‘Quite sure, Geshe-la.’

‘Then ask for more suffering!’ he would say, bringing his palms to his heart.  ‘Please, Universe, give me more suffering and pain and misery.  Bring it on!  I want more of it!’

Of course, there is no universal donor of pain and suffering.  Rather this is a classic example of powerful, counter-intuitive, Buddhist psychology.  Transforming ourselves from a weak and enfeebled victim to someone capable of dealing with much more suffering marks a fundamental shift.  And curiously, the more insistent we are that we can take more suffering, the easier our current burden seems to be.

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Do animals use telepathy to communicate? Intriguing video evidence.


Many pet lovers have had the experience of a dog, cat, or other being appearing to know about something without having been shown it.  Or inexplicably understanding the significance of something that happened.  In some cases a persistent thought may arise in a pet-lover’s mind which, when they respond to it, seems to have been communicated by the pet himself – especially when the pet, or someone else, is in danger, or need.

The idea that animals communicate using what we call telepathy, is by no means new.  But scientists, who have traditionally dismissed both telepathy as well as animal sentience, have only just begun to investigate this intriguing phenomenon.  Many scientists would unwilling to risk the ridicule of their peers even suggesting this subject is worthy of exploration.  Fortunately for us, Cambridge-educated biologist, Rupert Sheldrake is not one of these.

Sheldrake was a Fellow of Clare College, Cambridge where he was Director of Studies in cell biology, and was also a Research Fellow of the Royal Society. He is currently a Fellow of the Institute of Noetic Sciences in California.  In recent years he has been willing to undertake properly controlled trials investigating phenomenon such as ‘Dogs that Know when their owners are coming home and other unexplained powers of animals’ – which became the title for one of his fascinating books.

More recently, he investigated the telepathic powers of an African Grey parrot called N’kisi who lives in New York City.  The 10 minute video below provides all the context you need, as well as live footage of this extraordinary experiment.  I hope you find it as intriguing as I do!


By the way, if you have any stories of pets who have displayed telepathic or other interesting psychic abilities, I’d be delighted to hear from you!  I am actively seeking personal anecdotes for a book I am currently writing.  Simply post your story at the end of this blog.  Or if you prefer, you can email it to me at:

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Exciting news on The Dalai Lama’s Cat Movie!


I am thrilled to report that The Dalai Lama’s Cat Movie now has a Director!  Not just any director, but Ben Gosling Fuller, the seasoned director of many successful comedies in UK including That Mitchell and Webb Look and the TV series IT Crowd; You, Me and Them; Citizen Khan, and many others.

As soon as Ben read the screenplay written by Jon Tilley, he fell in love with His Holiness’s Cat (HHC).  “I receive many scripts but the moment I read this, I could see the whole movie in my head- it was so evocative and enchanting. I saw the potential for this as a clever, exciting and wonderful family film,” he says.  “HHC is such a funny, dry and engaging character, I could see the chance to take people on a journey that would move them but also make them laugh.”

“My vision is for a warm-hearted, multi-layered story in an incredible setting I haven’t seen on screen before, which will keep the audience spell-bound from the first moment to the last.  There will be plenty of action and laughs, but also the underlying messages from The Dalai Lama’s Cat book series which have resonated so strongly with people around the world.”

Ben expects HHC and other non-human cast members to be computer generated images (CGI), with the humans played by actors.  Working so closely with many actors over the years, Ben already has plenty of casting ideas.

Those of you familiar with the movie Paddington, will know how effectively a CGI hero can combine with a cast of actors.  Paddington was directed by Paul King who, like Ben, is a British director with extensive experience in comedy.  As it happens, Paul and Ben know each other and have worked with many of the same people in the past.

Next step is to produce a trailer to show potential financiers, including at the Cannes Film Market in May.  Over future weeks there will be a lot of work bringing HHC to life as a CGI character.  I can’t wait to see how our flawed, but adorable feline friend turns out – I am sure she is going to be just amazing!

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Calling out for real life mindful pet stories

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Dear Blog Readers,

I am busy writing a new book and I need your help please!

The book is non-fiction – for those of you who are Dalai Lama’s Cat fans, don’t fret, I have a new novel coming out this year.  More on that in future weeks.

My new factual book involves mindfulness in relation to pets, and I’d like to illustrate it with real life stories. Which is where you come in.

I am looking for stories which may have happened to you, or someone you know, where something interesting happened as a result of practising mindfulness in relation to your pet/another animal.

Even as animal lovers, we are often so caught up in our own thoughts that we pay less attention to our pets than we should.  So what happens when we do pay close attention?  Do we realize that our animal companion is trying to communicate something to us about himself or herself – or about us – that we hadn’t noticed before?  Can this insight shift our relationship onto a different level?  Or see us pursue a course of action with intriguing or important consequences? Of course, our pet doesn’t speak English, but we all communicate in many other more powerful ways besides verbally.

It can be fascinating what we notice when we are truly present for our pets.  I’d love to hear your stories.  They don’t have to be long or elaborate or life-changing.  But I’d be very grateful for whatever insights you’d like to share.

I’d be happy to mention your name/your pet’s name in any stories that I do include in my book.  Or to protect your anonymity – the choice is yours.

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With warm wishes and sincere thanks,