How important is willpower to your happiness? And does food have anything to do with it? Most of us would agree that it requires willpower to graduate from school, learn a skill, or practice anything till you get really good at it. Self-fulfilment is unlikely to just happen spontaneously. It is more likely to arise as a side effect...
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Cutting off thoughts versus suppressing them: what’s the difference?
When practising meditation our first experiences of a mind free of all agitation or dullness are usually all too brief. A fleeting glimpse, like catching sight of a rare fish beneath the surface of a river – unmistakable but elusive. For a few precious moments we may enjoy the peaceful spaciousness of mind, perhaps begin to settle into the profound...
Be better
Every day when I go online I find myself facing a barrage of emails, Facebook messages and blogs, with many of them urging me to do something. No doubt you have the same experience. Whether it’s Amazon prompting you to buy a new book, a thought leadership coach urging you to monetize your ideas, or an investment adviser telling you...
A meditation for this precious New Year
Happy 2020! Isn’t it incredible to think that you and I are among the top 0.0000001% of the world’s population? How can I make such an extraordinary pronouncement? The population to which I refer is that of all sentient beings – not just humans. To be born as one of only seven billion humans on a planet of numberless billions of...
Awakening to the true value of life – in a mortuary
A while back I had one of those ‘catching up on the last ten years’ phone calls with a friend who lives in Germany. Jacqui is amazing, amusing and vivacious, a woman of great inner and outer beauty. She had a successful modelling career in South Africa, where we met, as well as in Europe after she moved there. She is...
One New Year’s Resolution is enough!
As we approach that time of the year when New Year Resolutions are talked about, I’d like to share an insight from one of my favourite books, Willpower, Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength, by Roy Baumeister and John Tierney. To summarise, while willpower is a quality we can – and arguably should – all develop more of, on a day...
Eight things I have learned from prostate cancer
In May 2018 I underwent keyhole surgery to remove my prostate gland. The surgery followed a diagnosis of early stage prostate cancer over a year before. Three identified tumours were small, and not growing rapidly – Gleason Score 6 for those of you in the know. But the location of one showed the potential to spread. Given my relatively young...
This festive season, don’t let the urgent become the enemy of the important
This is a time of year when stress levels peak. Yes, we have parties, holidays and festivities to look forward to. But there are all those other things we need to get done before year end. Project deadlines, work assignments, and around the home perhaps, all sorts of jobs to complete in readiness for Christmas and the New Year. All...
Meditation and being ‘in flow’
I had the very good fortune of hearing Professor Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi deliver a presentation at a Happiness & Its Causes conference on one of the concepts for which he is world-famous: flow. ‘Flow’ is the state of being we all experience – however briefly or infrequently – when we become completely immersed in whatever it is that we are doing. By...
Why my book is NOT called ‘Mindfulness is Better than Sex’
Book titles can be challenging for an author. In a noisy world where everyone is competing for people’s attention, how do you distill the essence of a 300 page book into a title and strapline of just a few words? And do so in a way that makes a reader want to pick the book up or click for more?...
Create more space in your life without changing what you do
One of the most stress-inducing ideas, when we’re crazy busy, is the one that we just don’t have time to relax. We’d love to push back for a while. In fact, we’re desperate for it. But we put the idea out of our mind because we’ve still got a pile of work to get through, and there just isn’t any...
Recommended Reading for Mindful Safari
Mindful Safari is all about being here and now, among some of the most extraordinary vistas in Africa. And spending time with iconic wildlife in their own habitat. Even though the emphasis of these special visits is non-conceptual – that is, simply being present – in recent years a number of excellent books have been published offering a conceptual understanding about...
